• Latest
  • Contribute
  • Contact Us
  • Login
  • Register
Muslim Mamas
  • Login
  • About Us
    • About Muslim Mamas
    • Our Team
    • Portfolio
    • Meet The Writers
  • Articles
    • All
    • Baby Led Weaning
    • Back to School
    • Beauty
    • Blogger news
    • Book Review
    • Breastfeeding
    • British Muslim Bloggers
    • Business
    • Business Mums
    • Career
    • Caught our eye
    • Charity
    • Chef Hat
    • Childcare
    • Children
    • Community
    • Conception
    • Culture
    • Days Out
    • Discoveries
    • Discrimination
    • Divorce
    • Duas
    • Eco Choices
    • Education
    • Entrepreneurs
    • Family Diet
    • Family Life
    • Fashion
    • Featured
    • Food
    • Friendships
    • Glass Ceiling
    • Global Muslim Bloggers
    • Going Organic
    • Good Reads
    • Green Life
    • Health
    • Healthy Eats
    • Healthy Kids
    • Higher Education
    • Holidays
    • Home Schooling
    • House & Home
    • How-To
    • Inspirations
    • Interesting reads
    • Islamic Calendar
    • Islamic Gems
    • Juggling
    • Kids Books
    • Labour
    • Life As we Know It
    • Lifestyle
    • Marriage
    • Money Talk
    • Mother in Law
    • Motherhood
    • Mums That Study
    • Muslim Spotlight
    • Muslim Vloggers
    • New Mum
    • Newborn
    • Parenting
    • Postnatal
    • Pregnancy
    • Premium
    • Quran
    • Ramadan
    • Recipes
    • Recycling
    • Relationships
    • Reminders
    • Retraining
    • Sex Talk
    • Single Mum
    • Sisters Circles
    • Skincare
    • Social Media
    • Socialising
    • Stories
    • Tear Jerker
    • Teens
    • Toddler
    • Traditions
    • Travel
    • Trouble at the Office
    • TV Talk
    • Uncategorized
    • Uni Kids
    • What to eat
    • What we're watching
    • Whats App Groups
    • Where to eat
    • Winning
    • Working Mums
    • World

    Everything you need to know about Ramadan Fasting During Pregnancy

    In Memory of my Dada (Grandad)

    To the Mama who isn’t Practicing

    Reaping a richer Ramadan with children

    Asmaa Hussein - Ruqaya's Bookshelf

    I Took My Hijab Off Today

    Navigating Christmas as a Muslim Revert

    Trending Tags

    • Premium
    • Work From Home
  • Podcast
    • Episodes
    • Platforms
      • Amazon Music
      • Apple Podcast
      • Spotify
    • About Us
    • Pod Gems
  • Categories
    • Motherhood
      • Conception
      • Pregnancy
      • Labour
      • Postnatal
      • Breastfeeding
      • Contraception
      • Newborn
      • Toddler
      • Children
      • Teens
      • Uni Kids
      • Parenting
      • New Mum
    • Relationships
      • Marriage
      • Single Mum
      • Divorce
      • Mother in Law
      • Family Life
      • Friendships
      • Socialising
      • Meet ups
      • Sisters Circles
      • Whats App Groups
      • Married kids
      • Sex Talk
    • Food
      • Where to eat
      • What to eat
      • Healthy Eats
      • Allergies
      • Recipes
      • Baby Led Weaning
      • Family Diet
      • Healthy Kids
      • Pack Lunch
      • Chef Hat
    • Lifestyle
      • Beauty
      • Skincare
      • Fashion
      • Days Out
      • Nights Out
      • Holidays
      • Discoveries
      • Traditions
      • Culture
      • Mum Accessories
      • Competition & Give Away
      • TV Talk
      • Social Media
      • Travel
    • Blogger news
      • British Muslim Bloggers
      • Global Muslim Bloggers
      • Muslim Vloggers
      • Muslim Spotlight
      • Caught our eye
    • Career
      • Working Mums
      • Childcare
      • Juggling
      • Trouble at the Office
      • Glass Ceiling
      • Winning
      • Inspirations
      • Business Mums
      • Entrepreneurs
      • Business
    • Education
      • Home Schooling
      • Back to School
      • Retraining
      • Higher Education
      • Mums That Study
      • Kids Books
    • Islamic Gems
      • Quran
      • Tafseer
      • Reminders
      • Duas
      • Stories
      • Islamic Calendar
      • Interesting reads
    • Green Life
      • Going Organic
      • Recycling
      • Eco Choices
    • Life As we Know It
      • Money Talk
      • Discrimination
      • What we’re watching
      • Tear Jerker
  • VIP Lounge
    • Enter VIP Lounge
    • Library
  • Directory
    • Businesses
    • Add Listing
  • Newsletter
No Result
View All Result
  • Login
  • About Us
    • About Muslim Mamas
    • Our Team
    • Portfolio
    • Meet The Writers
  • Articles
    • All
    • Baby Led Weaning
    • Back to School
    • Beauty
    • Blogger news
    • Book Review
    • Breastfeeding
    • British Muslim Bloggers
    • Business
    • Business Mums
    • Career
    • Caught our eye
    • Charity
    • Chef Hat
    • Childcare
    • Children
    • Community
    • Conception
    • Culture
    • Days Out
    • Discoveries
    • Discrimination
    • Divorce
    • Duas
    • Eco Choices
    • Education
    • Entrepreneurs
    • Family Diet
    • Family Life
    • Fashion
    • Featured
    • Food
    • Friendships
    • Glass Ceiling
    • Global Muslim Bloggers
    • Going Organic
    • Good Reads
    • Green Life
    • Health
    • Healthy Eats
    • Healthy Kids
    • Higher Education
    • Holidays
    • Home Schooling
    • House & Home
    • How-To
    • Inspirations
    • Interesting reads
    • Islamic Calendar
    • Islamic Gems
    • Juggling
    • Kids Books
    • Labour
    • Life As we Know It
    • Lifestyle
    • Marriage
    • Money Talk
    • Mother in Law
    • Motherhood
    • Mums That Study
    • Muslim Spotlight
    • Muslim Vloggers
    • New Mum
    • Newborn
    • Parenting
    • Postnatal
    • Pregnancy
    • Premium
    • Quran
    • Ramadan
    • Recipes
    • Recycling
    • Relationships
    • Reminders
    • Retraining
    • Sex Talk
    • Single Mum
    • Sisters Circles
    • Skincare
    • Social Media
    • Socialising
    • Stories
    • Tear Jerker
    • Teens
    • Toddler
    • Traditions
    • Travel
    • Trouble at the Office
    • TV Talk
    • Uncategorized
    • Uni Kids
    • What to eat
    • What we're watching
    • Whats App Groups
    • Where to eat
    • Winning
    • Working Mums
    • World

    Everything you need to know about Ramadan Fasting During Pregnancy

    In Memory of my Dada (Grandad)

    To the Mama who isn’t Practicing

    Reaping a richer Ramadan with children

    Asmaa Hussein - Ruqaya's Bookshelf

    I Took My Hijab Off Today

    Navigating Christmas as a Muslim Revert

    Trending Tags

    • Premium
    • Work From Home
  • Podcast
    • Episodes
    • Platforms
      • Amazon Music
      • Apple Podcast
      • Spotify
    • About Us
    • Pod Gems
  • Categories
    • Motherhood
      • Conception
      • Pregnancy
      • Labour
      • Postnatal
      • Breastfeeding
      • Contraception
      • Newborn
      • Toddler
      • Children
      • Teens
      • Uni Kids
      • Parenting
      • New Mum
    • Relationships
      • Marriage
      • Single Mum
      • Divorce
      • Mother in Law
      • Family Life
      • Friendships
      • Socialising
      • Meet ups
      • Sisters Circles
      • Whats App Groups
      • Married kids
      • Sex Talk
    • Food
      • Where to eat
      • What to eat
      • Healthy Eats
      • Allergies
      • Recipes
      • Baby Led Weaning
      • Family Diet
      • Healthy Kids
      • Pack Lunch
      • Chef Hat
    • Lifestyle
      • Beauty
      • Skincare
      • Fashion
      • Days Out
      • Nights Out
      • Holidays
      • Discoveries
      • Traditions
      • Culture
      • Mum Accessories
      • Competition & Give Away
      • TV Talk
      • Social Media
      • Travel
    • Blogger news
      • British Muslim Bloggers
      • Global Muslim Bloggers
      • Muslim Vloggers
      • Muslim Spotlight
      • Caught our eye
    • Career
      • Working Mums
      • Childcare
      • Juggling
      • Trouble at the Office
      • Glass Ceiling
      • Winning
      • Inspirations
      • Business Mums
      • Entrepreneurs
      • Business
    • Education
      • Home Schooling
      • Back to School
      • Retraining
      • Higher Education
      • Mums That Study
      • Kids Books
    • Islamic Gems
      • Quran
      • Tafseer
      • Reminders
      • Duas
      • Stories
      • Islamic Calendar
      • Interesting reads
    • Green Life
      • Going Organic
      • Recycling
      • Eco Choices
    • Life As we Know It
      • Money Talk
      • Discrimination
      • What we’re watching
      • Tear Jerker
  • VIP Lounge
    • Enter VIP Lounge
    • Library
  • Directory
    • Businesses
    • Add Listing
  • Newsletter
No Result
View All Result
Muslim Mamas
No Result
View All Result
Home Relationships Marriage

The Rise of the ‘do it all’ Daddies

Guest Writer by Guest Writer
08/24/2022
in Marriage, Relationships, Working Mums
0 0
0
0
SHARES
279
VIEWS
Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

Written by R.J Dreamer

The dynamics of the modern Muslin family have really changed in the last few years and definitely for the better.  More and more mothers are working outside the home with supportive husbands that are taking on an equal share of the domestic and family duties.  The whole family structure has changed with dads much more involved in their children’s lives.  It’s a real shift from dads working all day and then coming home late when the children have gone to bed.   Dads actually want to be closer and are thriving by having a stronger relationship with their children.

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

“..And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.” (30:21)


A recent study by Lancaster University Management School found that fathers want to spend more time with their children and are beginning to give more direct care. They also found that society as a whole is changing their attitude toward the father-child dynamic. The belief that it is a mother’s job to look after the children is very much in the past.  The changes are also happening in many of our own Asian and Muslim communities too.  It wasn’t that long ago that it was frowned upon for men to help their wives and helping domestically was unheard of. 

For instance, parents evening was something only mums attended and most teachers never met the child’s dad.  Now you see just as many fathers as mothers attending.  Even the local children’s playground is filled with fathers playing with their kids.  Furthermore, fathers are taking on more of their fair share of chores at home which really should have always been the case.  Ok yes, they ‘may not’ do things as well as mum can but does that really matter? Mum is not superwoman and any help is welcomed.  Plus, if both husband and wife work then really that’s the fairest way.  

The Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) stated:

عن النبیّ (ص)، قال: «أکمل المؤمنین إیماناً، احسنهم خلقاً، و خیارکم خیارکم لنسائه.»

The most complete persons in faith are those who have the best manners and the good among you are those who are good with their wives. Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 71, p. 389

When it comes to finding a reason for, what is seen as a modern change, then you don’t really need to look far.  It all goes back to the parents of those men and how they brought up that child.  A boy’s environment when he is growing up is a fundamental influence on how he will treat his future wife and children.  Coming from a warm, caring and loving environment is something that he will take with him into adulthood.  If he has grown up with a father respecting, valuing and supporting his mother, then he will see that as a norm. 

For Asian and Muslim communities this is a massive shift.  It was not that long ago that mothers and mothers in-laws would really take offence if they heard that their son was helping his wife by washing the dishes.  Even if they heard he was babysitting his own kids, the reaction would be, was it really necessary for her to go out? Consequently, it was mothers and their cultural values, who were pushing this trend on to their sons.  That’s why this shift in attitude is very much welcomed.  

Also, as I mentioned previously, financial pressures have a big role to play here. More women are working in high profile jobs and providing a very comfortable living standard for their husbands.  Therefore, if a wife has a full-time job, then it is physically impossible to do everything and things have to be shared.

While we may think this trend is very progressive, that’s actually not the case.  Islam has always taught us about the respect, love and care that women are entitled to.  Our Holy Prophet (PBUH) and the Imams (A.S.) all treated their wives with up most respect and honour.      

One day the Messenger of Allah (S) paid a visit to the house of Ali (A.S.) and Fatemah (S.A.). He saw that Ali (A.S.) was sieving the pulses and Fatemah (S.A.) was busy cooking. On observing this the Prophet (S) remarked, “O Ali, I do not speak except what is revealed to me. Anyone who helps his wife in her domestic affairs obtains a reward of one year of worship equal to the amount of hair on his body. This year of worship will be as if he has fasted during its days and prayed during its nights. Allah will reward him equal to the reward of all the patient ones, Hazrat Dawood (A.S.) and Hazrat Isa (A.S.).”Jamius Sa’daat, vol. 2, p. 142       

Finally, always remember that the most important lesson you and your husband can give to your children is how you treat each other.  Your son will learn how to treat his wife and your daughter will learn what to expect from her husband.  These are the lessons that Allah will eternally bless you for so make sure you give them a good example to follow.    



 

               

Tags: coparentingDadsfatherhoodmarriage
Guest Writer

Guest Writer

All guest writer articles come from our Muslim Mamas community or from our network of supporters. Some contribute one-off stories; some contribute as anonymous mamas. All experiences and opinions are those of the writers.

Related Posts

Family Life

Navigating Christmas as a Muslim Revert

by Sarah Yataghane
02/02/2023
Family Life

Caring for our elders as Muslim Mamas

by Sarah Yataghane
02/02/2023
Featured

How to Publish a Book – Part One

by Tasneem Abdur-Rashid
07/13/2022
Featured

Toxic friendships – learning when it’s time to say goodbye

by Tasneem Abdur-Rashid
06/10/2022
Business Mums

I’m not a superwoman or a supermum!

by Tasneem Abdur-Rashid
02/02/2023

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

I agree to the Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy.

Premium Content

Indestructible Indoor Plants For Busy Mums by Humaira Shah

08/04/2021

How Can I Poison My Mother-in-Law? by Shabnam Nazeer

08/02/2021
Tasneem Abdur-Rashid - British Bengali Author

My Hijab Journey by Tasneem Abdur-Rashid

02/02/2023

Browse by Category

  • Baby Led Weaning
  • Back to School
  • Beauty
  • Blogger news
  • Book Review
  • Breastfeeding
  • British Muslim Bloggers
  • Business
  • Business Mums
  • Career
  • Caught our eye
  • Charity
  • Chef Hat
  • Childcare
  • Children
  • Community
  • Conception
  • Culture
  • Days Out
  • Discoveries
  • Discrimination
  • Divorce
  • Duas
  • Eco Choices
  • Education
  • Entrepreneurs
  • Family Diet
  • Family Life
  • Fashion
  • Featured
  • Food
  • Friendships
  • Glass Ceiling
  • Global Muslim Bloggers
  • Going Organic
  • Good Reads
  • Green Life
  • Health
  • Healthy Eats
  • Healthy Kids
  • Higher Education
  • Holidays
  • Home Schooling
  • House & Home
  • How-To
  • Inspirations
  • Interesting reads
  • Islamic Calendar
  • Islamic Gems
  • Juggling
  • Kids Books
  • Labour
  • Life As we Know It
  • Lifestyle
  • Marriage
  • Money Talk
  • Mother in Law
  • Motherhood
  • Mums That Study
  • Muslim Spotlight
  • Muslim Vloggers
  • New Mum
  • Newborn
  • Parenting
  • Postnatal
  • Pregnancy
  • Premium
  • Quran
  • Ramadan
  • Recipes
  • Recycling
  • Relationships
  • Reminders
  • Retraining
  • Sex Talk
  • Single Mum
  • Sisters Circles
  • Skincare
  • Social Media
  • Socialising
  • Stories
  • Tear Jerker
  • Teens
  • Toddler
  • Traditions
  • Travel
  • Trouble at the Office
  • TV Talk
  • Uncategorized
  • Uni Kids
  • What to eat
  • What we're watching
  • Whats App Groups
  • Where to eat
  • Winning
  • Working Mums
  • World

Browse by Tags

author beauty Book review books Charity children covid culture divorce dua education health healthcare hijab hijabi hijabi influencers husband Instagram Islamic reminder islamic reminders lifestyle marketplace marriage media modest fashion motherhood muslim author Muslim Mamas NHS pandemic parenthood parenting Publishing Ramadan Ramadan22 Ramadan2022 relationships sadaqah safety salah sales shopping spirituality sunnah tips and tricks

Quick Links

  • About Us
  • Contact Us
  • Become A Writer
  • Meet The Writers
  • Promote Your Business
  • Host An Event
  • Host A Course

Recent Posts

  • Everything you need to know about Ramadan Fasting During Pregnancy
  • In Memory of my Dada (Grandad)
  • To the Mama who isn’t Practicing

Follow Us

Signup for our Newsletter

Loading...

Thank you!

You have successfully joined our subscriber list.
.

Muslim Mamas © 2022 Copyrighted to Muslim Mamas

  • Login
  • Sign Up
No Result
View All Result
  • Login
  • About Us
    • About Muslim Mamas
    • Our Team
    • Portfolio
    • Meet The Writers
  • Articles
  • Podcast
    • Episodes
    • Platforms
      • Amazon Music
      • Apple Podcast
      • Spotify
    • About Us
    • Pod Gems
  • Categories
    • Motherhood
      • Conception
      • Pregnancy
      • Labour
      • Postnatal
      • Breastfeeding
      • Contraception
      • Newborn
      • Toddler
      • Children
      • Teens
      • Uni Kids
      • Parenting
      • New Mum
    • Relationships
      • Marriage
      • Single Mum
      • Divorce
      • Mother in Law
      • Family Life
      • Friendships
      • Socialising
      • Meet ups
      • Sisters Circles
      • Whats App Groups
      • Married kids
      • Sex Talk
    • Food
      • Where to eat
      • What to eat
      • Healthy Eats
      • Allergies
      • Recipes
      • Baby Led Weaning
      • Family Diet
      • Healthy Kids
      • Pack Lunch
      • Chef Hat
    • Lifestyle
      • Beauty
      • Skincare
      • Fashion
      • Days Out
      • Nights Out
      • Holidays
      • Discoveries
      • Traditions
      • Culture
      • Mum Accessories
      • Competition & Give Away
      • TV Talk
      • Social Media
      • Travel
    • Blogger news
      • British Muslim Bloggers
      • Global Muslim Bloggers
      • Muslim Vloggers
      • Muslim Spotlight
      • Caught our eye
    • Career
      • Working Mums
      • Childcare
      • Juggling
      • Trouble at the Office
      • Glass Ceiling
      • Winning
      • Inspirations
      • Business Mums
      • Entrepreneurs
      • Business
    • Education
      • Home Schooling
      • Back to School
      • Retraining
      • Higher Education
      • Mums That Study
      • Kids Books
    • Islamic Gems
      • Quran
      • Tafseer
      • Reminders
      • Duas
      • Stories
      • Islamic Calendar
      • Interesting reads
    • Green Life
      • Going Organic
      • Recycling
      • Eco Choices
    • Life As we Know It
      • Money Talk
      • Discrimination
      • What we’re watching
      • Tear Jerker
  • VIP Lounge
    • Enter VIP Lounge
    • Library
  • Directory
    • Businesses
    • Add Listing
  • Newsletter

Muslim Mamas © 2022 Copyrighted to Muslim Mamas

Welcome Back!

Sign In with Facebook
Sign In with Google
OR

Login to your account below

Forgotten Password? Sign Up

Create New Account!

Sign Up with Facebook
Sign Up with Google
OR

Fill the forms bellow to register

*By registering into our website, you agree to the Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy.
All fields are required. Log In

Retrieve your password

Please enter your username or email address to reset your password.

Log In
This website uses cookies. By continuing to use this website you are giving consent to cookies being used. Visit our Privacy and Cookie Policy.