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Arianna’s Hijab Story

My daughter's hijab journey by Nafisa Rahimi

Nafisa Rahimi by Nafisa Rahimi
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The hijab journey I’m about to tell, is not really my own. It is my now eleven-year-old daughter’s. 

I never thought I would have to worry about my daughter wearing a hijab. It’s a given, I thought. When the time comes, of course she will. I was reassured by the little but significant signs when she was barely three years old. She was always seeking out the hijabi minions in nurseries or hijabi teachers. She seemed drawn to hijab wearers like a moth to a fly.

This was then reinforced when at the tender age of six, she insisted she wanted to wear hijab all the time. I had to sit her down and explain why she didn’t have to wear it. I went as far as to dissuade her and let her wear it in short bursts only. I still remember cringing when she was proudly wearing it in public, mainly because I thought people may think I was forcing her (we were out shopping). I loved her to wear it to the masjid however. This conflict always filled me with secret shame and I thought I was such a hypocrite.

Whatever my feelings, I allowed her to be herself with it on and off, and didn’t let on to her what I was really thinking as I still wanted to foster her natural love for this crown. I promised her she could start wearing it at school in year 5. I always felt my little princess was always searching for her identity, never really being herself and fully comfortable. I felt terrible that I couldn’t give her the comfort of the hijab that she so sought. 

Fast forward a few years, come year 5, she was nine years old. She quickly informed me, before I could remind her, that although we agreed to start hijab then, she would rather we waited until she started puberty or Year 7 in secondary school (whichever one came first). I groaned inwardly as I knew I may have a battle on my hands. She had changed. She was no longer looking at hijab longingly. 

Although, out of school, she loved experimenting with hijab styles and showed interest, she was very aware of her peers and not wanting to stand out. She maturely explained to me that she didn’t want anyone to treat her differently. That if she had always worn it, then people would be used to it from the outset. She was now terrified of change.

This time I encouraged her, and told her for practice, she had to wear it from year 6 and not year 7 at school. It will be a new year, and people will just have to get used to it. Although she reluctantly agreed to this compromise, I knew that it would be hard for her to find the courage.

Soon after she started year 5, with all the curriculum unpredictability, we decided to switch schools to an independent faith school. Hijab here would be part of her uniform.

Alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah. This little ten-year-old blossomed into her own. 

She was finally relaxed. Free to be herself. She wore her hijab like a glove, as if she had always worn it, and became so comfortable in her own skin. Maybe a bit too comfortable (!). I found myself reminding her to brush her hair and she would reply ‘No one’s going to see it ammu!’ or ‘I don’t have time, tomorrow inshallah!’

On a weekend shopping trip, I even caught her pyjamas sticking out of her long ‘dress’ only for her to turn around and I saw she had whipped on an abaya on top of her pyjamas. ‘Why have you not changed?’ I exclaimed only to be told ‘Oh don’t worry ammu, I’ll be back in no time. That’s the whole point of abaya, no one can see!’ before she cheerfully got into the car.

I don’t know what her future holds, but for now, she was finally one of us .

This photo was taken last summer (where has the time gone?!). She has mashallah grown into the butterfly I always knew she was, comfortable in her own hijab, in her own skin. Wearing it with love, the support and the encouragement that I should have had the courage to impart when she was younger so many moons ago, she is truly worthy of all duas. 

May Allah protect her, bless her, preserve her purity of heart and all the success and goodness for both worlds, ameen! May Allah keep her steadfast, hold on to this hijab with love and sincerity, to wear it for Allah’s Sake only, ameen!

I would love to hear how you have or intend to instill a love of Allah and hijab within your daughters. Let’s share ideas and inshallah help each other by leaving a comment.

By Nafisa Rahimi

Co-Founder of Muslim Mamas, Founder of Super Smart Learners and an award-winning podcast – Not Another Mum Pod. Nafisa graduated from the University of Birmingham in Applied Theological Studies and completed her PGCE in RE and English from the School of Education in Birmingham. She is a self-confessed workaholic living in London with her four children and husband. Nafisa enjoys writing, eating out, travelling and hanging out with the sitcom ‘Friends’.

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Nafisa Rahimi

By Nafisa Rahimi Co-Founder of Muslim Mamas, Super Smart Learners English (a unique educational programme) and an award-winning 'Best Podcast 2020' - Not Another Mum Pod. The audio Ramadan diaries are now a Permanent Collection of the Museum of London. Nafisa has recently been named in Techmae's ‘Woman Spotlight’. Nafisa's pods regularly make waves, frequently ranking in Apple Podcast charts worldwide (no.12 in Sweden and 13 in UK ). Nafisa faces difficult topics head-on in an attempt to grab the mic, and address Muslim-related issues with authentic Muslim voices. Nafisa lives in London with her four children and husband. She enjoys writing, eating out, travelling and hanging out with 'Friends'! Read all about it here: https://linktr.ee/Nafisa.Rahimi        

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  1. Rumki Chowdhury says:
    2 years ago

    I loved your hijab story. My 9 Year has been wearing hers to masjid on weekends, but on and off at her school where there are no hijabis. Her friends surprisingly accepted her anyway, with or without, but I did discourage her at first for the same reasons you had discouraged your daughter in the beginning. I explained my hesitation, but also asked her, “Are you sure? Are you sure you are ready to look different to everyone else in the school? You do understand that there are no hijabis at your school; you would be the only one. Are you okay with that?” She teared up and answered, “Yes, I am okay with it!” That’s the thing, hijab is a choice; who am I to tell her when or where she should wear it? These years are the most delicate, innocent years for my children and what better time to be brave it out than now?

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    • Nafisa Rahimi says:
      2 years ago

      You are absolutely right, we have to be their strength and it is our girls who are showing this determination and strength, we simply need to praise it and help them on their journey. May Allah bless these girls and give them steadfastedness in their deen, ameen. Thanks for sharing your experience. 🙂

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