Feeling sorry for ourselves when going through a difficult time is human nature. Bad things happen to each and everyone one of us and the challenges we face can be a mountain to some whereas the same challenge presented to another is conquered without stress or fear.

We are all different and our struggles are unique.

The most important thing to remember is that although it may seem that your life at present is far from ideal and everyone around you does not seem to suffer the same whether it be your finances, health or relationships you can only see a version of others that they allow you to see. Feeling like everyone else has their life together, is doing better than you, is living better than you …. is your perception. 

Just like you, for every win in life the other person will have a loss. We show others what we want them to see. Why don’t we give ourselves the same allowance. Focus on how you want to be seen, not what your shortcomings are. When your focus changes, your energy and the world around you ease up and make your path that much easier to your goal. 

In order to get this right you need to first be clear what you want and it should be specific. Whether you want to have a baby, write a novel, reach the next goalpost in your career or become more connected to your faith you need to focus your mind on exactly what you want. This is not hard to do when you think about it. You are probably doing it everyday in some form without noticing. 

Whether you pray salah or just ask Allah for guidance on something you need you are fulfilling the above criteria. When making a dua you have all the correct components for the first step of manifesting your end goal as you have pinned down what it is you actually want. 

Taking it one step further.

This is where most people stop and leave it up to the universe but in order to increase your chances of achieving what you want you need to then take the next step which is visualisation. Knowing that you want to get a promotion and actually envisioning yourself on your first day of your new role are two very different things. 

Studies have shown that people who regularly visualise achievements in their life are more successful than those who don’t. Visualisation is important because it helps to prepare and to teach you how to respond to a situation before it happens whilst conditioning your brain to see, hear, and feel the success in your mind. 

This mindset also helps you to be more open to opportunities and widen your thoughts on what resources are available to you. Starting from a position of success and working out how to get there is much easier than aiming to achieve without a clear plan. 

All you have to do is set aside a few minutes a day either when you wake up, after meditation or prayer or before you go to sleep as these are the times you are most relaxed and say out loud what you want to achieve and then visualise yourself achieving it.

Although it might seem silly to begin with, when you practice repeating your dream to yourself, eventually, you change your subconscious mind to match the vision you hold. This in turn allows you to be more open to opportunity, more confident and above all more positive.